Feeling like nothing I do is good enough š¢
Long but I need to get it out! ........ My husband and I have been together for 5 years we have a beautiful 4month old baby girl who looks just like him. He has an amazing job where he makes about $200,000 a year and I stay at home. His job takes a lot of him, he works SO MUCH! He takes care of all of the bills and finances while Iām supposed to do everything with the house (inside anyway) and with the baby. Well Iāve never been the cleanest person ever. Im not organized, Iāll wait until thereās a sink full of dishes to do them, or until the trash has been shoved down so much that you have to change the bag to put anything else in there. I know itās not ideal but itās the way Iāve always been. We have gotten into a few fights over cleaning the house. He doesnāt do anything around the house itās all on me. I thought I would get better with cleaning now that Iām a stay at home mom but honestly itās not any better.
My problem isnāt that he wants a cleaner home, I do too. (And for the record itās not so much dirty but itās cluttered I feel like thereās stuff everywhere.) What bothers me is the fact that he makes me feel like shit about it. Like Iām not a good person because Iām not a perfect home maker. He feels like I take for granted being able to stay home. Whenever the house is clean and tidy he still finds something to complain about. Or say that vacuuming and laundry donāt count as cleaning the house. He thinks I just want to put my feet up all day while he works.
Also he has been throwing it in my face that he has to give me money all the time. Heāll say things like, āyou canāt manage to clean the house but you ask for money all the fucking timeā and it really just hurts! Iām not out spending money on myself itās for the house for our daughter.
Maybe Iām wrong but I need advice! Advice on being more productive and clean... or ways I can explain myself to him. I donāt want to keep fighting over the same things over and over again. All I want to do is be better for my family. Thanks everyone!
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