Would u expect to be invited on trip with your baby?

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My Bf & I have been together for about 7 years & have a 3 month old baby girl. His family & I get along pretty well & I’d say we do like each other & they consider me family despite us not being married. His SIL (his brothers wife) decides to plan a family trip for the immediate family which is my bf & his 5 siblings & their kids. Her & I don’t talk or speak, she doesn’t like me for whatever reason & idc. She told him to get a passport for our daughter & she did a headcount for the trip. I clearly wasn’t included & I told my bf I think it’s rude of her not to invite the mother of his child. For one My daughter is breastfed & in certain situations my daughter responds better to me than to her father. Idk what to do & he doesn’t understand where I’m coming from

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100% should be invited, and I wouldn’t be letting bubs go without me. How does he not understand where you’re coming from? Sorry but babies need their mother at that age.

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that fact that he ur bf don't get it...is kinda fucked up for real.....her yea i would have some words for her....plan a trip with my new born BUT not me yea we gonna talk

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Either you go with your baby or your baby stays home with you, simple

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It’s inconsiderate to leave you out of a family trip despite her personal feelings. Most of my in-laws dislike my BIL’s girlfriend but she’s still going on the family trip since they have an infant together and live together. 
If she told him to get her a passport, that indicates they plan to leave the country. In the US, I believe you have to issue a letter giving permission for him to remove her from the country whether she has a passport or not. If you don’t provide written consent as the other parent, he could be charged with kidnapping. I could be mistaken, but a family friend had to do this before her son could travel overseas without her. Something to look into.

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I wouldn’t expect anything from her tbh, you said she doesn’t like you. Id just let them go and do your own thing for a bit and then leave her out of something you organise in the future.

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HAHA. 
My child wouldn’t be going anywhere without me.

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That’s so rude and my daughter would be with me wherever that may be. She’s pretty bold to have even suggested that.

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My daughter isn't going anywhere without me, so if I'm not invited, neither is my baby.

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Wow, that is harsh. She’s playing games and I applaud you for not giving a damn if she likes you or not. I’ve got to say though, why doesn’t your partner speak up and tell your SIL that you go too? How about his parents? Can’t anyone else but you see that this whole situation is very messed up?
If it were me I’d let my partner go, but not my child. Not to be spiteful, but because as the child’s mother, you have 100% every right to have full control over the child’s outside influences.

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My three month old baby would not leave the city let alone country without me. Ohh and FYI in order to get a passport for a minor both parents have to agree. If he doesn’t seem bothered by it tell his family that u think it nice his daughter go on vacation with them, but u t not comfortable with her leaving at this age and she is still breastfed...

Would u expect to be invited on trip with your baby?

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