So my boyfriend and I are both 30 years old. We are getting married by the end of the year. He only has 2 years left. He always said that he wouldn’t re-enlist. He knows that I’m not for the army life. I grew up in it and I don’t want to raise a family traveling or have the kids grow up with an absent father.

I also have a 9 year old that isn’t his. I can’t just leave my son if he gets orders for another state and definitely not another country.

This was all discussed before we started dating. Before and after we became really serious and recently about 2 months ago.

Well, I just found out we are pregnant with our first. Now he is talking about re-enlisting 😡. He keeps talking about bonus money. He now wants orders for Japan or Europe.

I’m like WTF...he’s dead set on this all of a sudden. His new phrase is “I guess my dreams don’t matter”. Two months ago he was ready to settle, get married, buy a home, travel and experience newlywed life for 2-3 years and then start a family.

I feel disrespected because he knows that I don’t like the lifestyle. He promised he’d get a job contract job in D.C. or V.A. When he got out. I make enough money for the both of us. I offered to let him take a break from work completely and just relax for a year or so.

I feel betrayed and almost trapped.