Hello! I don’t really know how to start this post so I’m just going to be blunt about *hence the title*... I haven’t had more than 2 orgasms in the last 3.5 years and I am desperate.

My husband and I started dating 3 years ago and while I wasn’t waiting for marriage, he was. He is truly the best man I have ever met, until it comes to our sex life 😩

Granted we have been having sex for just about 10 months...but it hasn’t really improved and now I’m starting to get to the point where I don’t even want to because it is very quick and even when it’s not very quick (but still kinda quick) I don’t get anything out of it... feeling this way makes me feel so many emotions: frustration, sadness, confusion, and sorry for feeling these feelings. I know my husband can sense it and I know he is self-conscious about it. In a very emotional episode, I brought up maybe he needed to go in to see the doctor and he got very upset (rightfully so for calling his “manhood” into question) but I just am beyond knowing what to do... I’ve tried telling him things I like or that I want him to do and he’s also gotten upset about that or doesn’t catch on. HELP!

Any advice is greatly appreciated! TIA