My boyfriend and I had an argument about whose job it is to do the cooking and cleaning.

I strongly believe that we will share this equally as both of us will be working. He said he would help me but don’t see himself doing it everyday, ai told him that it is equally our duty to do such work.

In our tradition the girl have to leave her house and live in the boys house, so I told him that I have to leave everything and settle into a new house and new routine so he should atleast be able to see these chores as equally ours.

To this he said that since he is the only male of the house doing such things will morally degrade his position and since he have to make as statement in the house he cannot be seen working in the kitchen as it is a girl’s duty to do such things and not a boy and he proceeded to tell me that I do not understand the pressure of being the only male in the house.

I told him that even if he can’t completely change his views we could at least compromise and see middle grounds in this situation, to which he said let us find a maid.

He does not understand that it isn’t about the chores that upset me but rather his attitude on such matters

Please help me. Please give me suggestions. Am I wrong to have such thoughts?