I’ve always considered myself a feminist. I don’t believe that you should necessarily depend on a man for anything..HOWEVER I’ve been really upset lately because I’ve just gotten out of a two and a half year long relationship where my man did not want to put any financial effort in.

I would like to mention that he’s really cheap..not just with me but himself, so that might have something to do with views. He never took me out to eat because “he can make food in the house for a fraction of the price”. Which I totally agree but to be with someone for two and a half years and NEVER go on a proper date really sucked. I literally knew no one who’s never been on a real date with their boyfriend. I never got flowers, we never celebrated Valentines Day. And the thing is he was always going on rants about how women are so entitled and only care about men’s money and the idea of romance is a marketing scam because you can be romantic without spending money. Again, I agree you can be romantic without having a guy spend all his money on you, but I don’t think it’s wrong to want to be a little pampered by your beau 😕 if he spend a total of 30 dollars in the whole relationship, that’s a lot. Note that’s I’ve given him gifts for all important holidays and I always pay when we order in and he never offers to do as much as tip the delivery guy.

Now I’ve been dating and I went on a date with this guy who didn’t offer to pay for anything. First we got coffee and the lady was gonna charge him for both and he immediately goes “out orders are separate “ but he invited me to this date! Later I told him I really didn’t have that much money. Next we came across a street artist who lets people paint these little pictures and he hand them on this wall. At first he made it sound like it was free but then he said it was 10 dollars. I coyly said I didn’t want to do it. But my date wanted to so he spent a half hour painting while I watched in the hot sun. I just couldn’t afford it and my date knows that I love art and would enjoy this experience so much. Then on the way home he boasted absolutely this bagel spot he loves. We go in and he orders his bagel. You can probably guess that I couldn’t afford anything. I thought he was taking it to go and then we were headed home. But no we sit down and he eats his bagel in front of me, again while I watch.

I’m a full time student and I pay bills, and I have loan debt. I work part time and I aspire to have a Masters degree. I intend to make my own money! It’s just a trip for me to get there. I hope I don’t sound spoiled in a modern society. But I really wish I knew what it felt like to have man take care of me at least a little bit. Any other girl I know could at least get coffee from a guy 🤷🏽‍♀️