I need opinions. Is it okay to give a gift that was meant for your niece to someone else?
UPDATE:
Thank you ladies for your opinions and advice. Yesterday after reading your comments I decided that the best thing to do is to give it to my SIL. Right after I took that decision, my aunt came over to visit (the new baby’s grandma) se saw the blanket folded on my couch and asked if it was for her daughter in law’s baby. I said “No, it’s for someone else” to which she responded “good, because Mary (my cousin’s wife) sold all the blankets I croché for my grandkids she doesn’t keep anything, doesn’t see the sentimental value of something handmade”
Her comment re-assured me I took the best decision: to give it to my SIL so she can keep something to remember about her precious baby girl.
Original post:
My cousin’s wife is expecting a girl and will be induced tomorrow July 4th with her 4th baby. This will be her rainbow baby. I was planning to chrochet a rainbow 🌈 color blanket for her rainbow baby but unfortunately I didn’t have enough time (I work full time).
I had started this quilt for my sister in law whose due date would of been for around this time but unfortunately she miscarried at about 16 weeks, she too was having a girl. So I figured I could finish this one off and gift it to my cousin’s wife. Do you guys think is okay for me to do that? I got mixed feelings about this because my SIL knows I was making it for her baby.
My mom says there shouldn’t be a problem. My hubby says to just keep it in case my SIL gets pregnant again in the future. My SIL got very depressed after her loss, and I too got affected by her loss because I was there through the most part, I saw everything and I was the one who took her to the hospital. In a way I felt her loss as my own. We were able to see the gender too, she would of been her 4th baby and the 2nd girl. I just don’t want to hurt her feelings.
I don’t know if I’m making sense but I cannot decide if it’s a good idea or not to gift this blanket to another baby. I want to gift it, I feel it in my heart to gift it but at the same time I’m scared to cause hurting feelings for my SIL when she sees another baby wrapped in this blanket.
*** I have to mention that my SIL never saw the finished product. She saw the yarn colors but never saw it while I was making it. But she does knows I was making one with that yarn for my niece.
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