Any ideas on how I should handle this.

Destination wedding ceremony with immediate family in Pennsylvania. Intimate, and simple.

20 days later in...

Florida (where we resign) we are throwing a big celebration. Including family and friends.

Question is...

Would you think it would be expected to have a wedding cake, first dance, father daughter dance, all the traditional stuff?

Side note...

The “you’re not invited” is going on the invitations. Followed by we had a private ceremony but come celebrate with us. And other details obvi.