emotional relationship

ive been with my SO for 2.5 yrs. been good friends for 9 yrs. for him it was love at 1st sight, for me he was everything i wanted but didnt want to date him. now i feel like hes emotionally abusive. i have to watch what i say/do. arguments every time i see my family he doesnt like. everything on his sched if its not hes pissed. he can spend money i cant. when i go out with friends he calls me like 10 min later asking when ill be home. i moved 3 hours away from my whole life to be with him, he gave up nothing and doesnt understand. i just need advice. talking doesnt work. i feel stuck, only way out is if one of us leaving earth...