I’m 21 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend broke up with me two weeks ago basically due to fights about housework, and his trust issues. I’m 25, he’s 33. So I moved out and am staying with my dad. My ex and I are still going to couple’s counseling every other week, I see the same therapist once every other week by myself too. The reason I slacked on housework was because of morning sickness and a subchorionic bleed combined with prenatal hormonal depression during my first trimester. It sucks because I stuck with him though the times when he was WAY down in the dumps (jail, probation, drug and alcohol recovery programs, laid off of work, etc), but the second I feel sick or sad and have some issues, I’m “lazy” and it turns into fights.

He still wants to hangout with me all the time when he’s free. He says “I love you”, and was giving me kisses and we had sex sometimes still even though we broke up, until I told the therapist today that it’s confusing for me. Now he won’t. I’ve been staying over at his house pretty often so he can help me get all signed up for school courses and we can BBQ together and go to doctors and therapy appointments. I feel like we broke up for stupid reasons, and our therapist can see he still cares about and loves me. He talks about “if we got back together” one minute, and the next minute I’ll ask about the future and he’ll tell me to stop. It’s hard because he says he wants to be “friends”, but I want more than that and I don’t know what he really wants deep down or if we ever have a chance again.

He texts me all the time when he’s at work, tells me he misses me, etc. For a few days right after he broke up with me he was texting other girls, had tinder, and even asked for a servers number at a restaurant. I told my mom about this and how he was talking to girls in front of me and my mom called him (not her place to do so I know), but basically she told him that was an asshole move, and he stopped, as long as I don’t talk to guys. Which I’m not, I’m pregnant and I only want to be with my baby’s dad. This hurt me a lot though. He still talks about us seeing other people in the future and says he wants to plan on how we will raise the baby separately. But still says we have a chance in the future.

It’s hard because I AM confused and basically in a state of denial that we are even broken up. But I don’t want to stop spending time with him. And I always hope that we can get back together and have the happy family we both want. The therapist told me to focus on enjoying our time together and not worrying about our relationship status, but it’s so hard. I feel like even he doesn’t know what he wants. I feel like we both are going to have to make sacrifices if we want it to work again, but the only time he ever talks about stuff like this is at therapy. And it still doesn’t answer any of my questions. I’m heartbroken, I miss him and I love him SO much, I’m just not sure how he feels. I don’t know how to fix this... 💔