I live in a state where it’s legal, just to get that out of the way. My boyfriend and I have been long time smokers. I have 2 little boys ages 3 and 5. Quitting while pregnant with them was not a big deal to me because my ex husband wasn’t a smoker. But now I’m 25 weeks with a little girl, and my boyfriends first child.

I quit smoking when I found out I was pregnant and asked him to quit with me. He complied but then I started to feel bad for him around18 weeks and let him start up again. (He works 60 hours a week and would do anything in the world for me) I know he’d quit again if I asked him to but I don’t have the heart.

It’s just hard for me knowing he has something to ease his stress and I can’t touch it for another 4 months. Sometimes I think that just one hit won’t hurt but I’ve gone this long without it. I just don’t know how to cope with the jealousy of him smoking and I can’t.

I’m not looking to be bashed. We have a very steady income, bills are paid, children are more then well taken care of, both have vehicles a house and decent jobs. I just won’t to know how other moms dealt with this situation. Would you continue to let him smoke? Make him stop?