Am I the toxic one?

So I’ve been with my current BF (lets call him N) for 6-7 months now. We met on an online dating app and started off with long distance. I know it sounds difficult but we are managing it. We try to visit each other almost every month for a weekend or longer. I’m currently visiting him for a few days. Last night we were in bed and he asked me if I feel he manipulates me.... and he doesn’t! He’s the best and sweetest guy ever. And I told him that. But that got me thinking. If I manipulate him. When he doesn’t want to have sex I sometimes crib about it. Last night he was tired and I flat out said “well I’m here only for 4 nights you don’t have the option to be tired or sick or whatever” he was supposed to wake up by 4:30 am for some work but he couldn’t and woke up at 8:30 am :( this is just one of the many things. Is this toxic? How do I change? I really truly love him. I don’t want to manipulate him 😪😪 please help