Husband and Dirt

My husband is a very caring, gentle man, and sometimes I just want him to drop the nice guy and get dirty. Whisper horribly disgusting things in my ear in public. secure his hands around my neck while he rams me. I don't give up control easy, and I just want him to fight back and take control of me in such filthy ways. I crave for him to just use me with reckless abandon. TBH I'm too shy to ask...