This woman is absolutely the worst. Backstory: I got pregnant at 21 and my husband and I had to live with her and my dad a bit until we graduated college and saved up a little more. Fast forward, we are now 24 yo with 2 yo twins.

-When the twins were 3 months old, I asked her to feed them. She microwaved their milk, which she knew I didn’t want her to do because I was advised against it from the NICU staff. I asked her if she did, and she eventually owned up to it and actually said the words “well when I’m watching them, I will do things my way. I don’t need to do things your way when you are having me watch them.” Uhhhh what

-When the twins were 6 months old, she fed them honey. And had no idea she did anything wrong.

-The twins have severe allergies to milk protein and oats. She fed them both of these things. So I stared leaving her a list of what they could and could not eat. She still screwed up and fed them dairy. So I started prepping foods and saying “only feed them what I prepped.” She still fed them dairy. So at this point I stopped letting her watch them for safety reasons.

-She then had an affair with some guy she met at the mall, told me all about it (including the size of the man’s penis) and then told me not to tell my father. Then ON THAT NIGHT TRIED TO SHARE A DRINK WITH MY KIDS! STD MUCH?

-She proceeded to tell me I lead her to have the affair because my family and I put stress on her by living in her house. Keep in mind I made things easier for her (I meal prepped for her, my dad, and my 3 siblings as well as me and my husband every Sunday for the entire week because she doesn’t cook, I also cleaned for her, etc) but yes, my infant twins cried a lot because they were infants so it was stressful. Oops.

-After awhile, she told me I couldn’t keep not allowing her to watch my kids alone because they are “her grandkids and she is entitled to them.” WHAT?!!?

-So I start giving her a bit more responsibility (like allowing her to be in her room over with the twins without me being in there too). And I walk in to find her cleaning with bleach and my 1 year old twins playing with an empty laundry detergent bottle. Lol so that ended then and there.

-She and my dad told me I’m a shit mom out of anger and then took it back.

-Also, she claims my favorite twin is Baby A, since I held Baby A first in the NICU because they were on monitors and too tiny for me to hold both at one time. So she makes it so clear and blatantly favors Baby B. Even Baby A notices it and it breaks my heart. I do not favor either of my kids, I love them both so much. This past Sunday, the twins were each throwing tantrums wanting her to change their clothes, Baby A got there first and asked her nicely. Baby B (her favorite) ran up kicking and screaming in tantrum mode and I said “Mom, don’t change her right now. Baby A asked nicely and got to you first, don’t reward Baby B with what she wants when she’s acting this way.” Wouldn’t you know it, my mom looks at me, grabs Baby B, and changes her. Baby A was so sad.

There is so much more that I haven’t mentioned but this post is so long already.

Thank God we moved out 🙌🏼

Here is the dilemma:

-For two and a half years now I’ve been asking her not to kiss their faces, or be all up in their faces. And I am still asking her to stop to this day. She does it every time we see her. This past Sunday, she was rubbing her face all over theirs and then went up to her sketchy family friend and asked HIM to kiss my child also. EXCUSE ME????? I shot my husband a look and my dad goes “I don’t know what is so bad about this” in a pissy tone.

Anyway, now she wants to come over and talk to me about this in front of my twins. Take up time that I have with my kids to talk to me about something we’ve been arguing about for over 2 years, just so that she’s not going to change one bit once again. Really? Like what do I do? Should I just talk to her again for the hell of it? Or should I tell her to save her drama? Or any other options I should consider? So sick of her stressing me out so much even though I live 25 mins away from her now! Like I feel nauseous thinking about her coming over to talk, I have a headache, and honestly it takes away from me being the best mom to my kids that I can be. Like I’m sitting here typing this during their nap time while I could be making dinner or doing something more productive. Idk. Am I just crazy or is this annoying?

Rant over