so I am pregnant, I found out I was 11 weeks. however, I am 19 and my boyfriend is also 19 and we both live at his parents house. They both know, I’m still indecisive but I feel like keeping him/her. my boyfriend is very supportive, however, his mother is giving me mixed signals. she says one day “I want a grandchild more than anyone” and then the next minute she’s asking when I’m getting my abortion. she thinks we’re children still, however, i have paid my own bills, took care of myself, my boyfriend takes care of himself. we know how to cook, clean, and generally take care of ourselves.

she patronises me a lot and she makes it about herself a lot, and she says things like “my son will have to work too hard”, she calls me lazy and stupid. and it makes me feel like utter shit. I want to keep the baby, we are both working, however, not enough to have our own place. but we are working on it and I hope we move out soon enough anyway. she’s a very controlling woman and she goes on and on about abortion every time we speak and it just hits hard with her words.

I feel like I hardly ever get a say in anything and I feel like she’s already controlling my body when I haven’t even made a proper decision yet. I don’t have many friends to talk about this to and I just need some advice or just encouragement.

also, his mother is physically and emotionally abusive, she is a drunk most of the time and she has hit me and threatened to kick me out many times. she has kicked me out once (whilst I was pregnant) and I was homeless for about a week. (and this was for no reason apart from defending myself)

EDIT: she started shouting randomly saying “I don’t want no disgusting mixed race baby in my house, if she doesn’t abort it, i’ll do something about it” and then an hour later she’s like “everything okay, rose?” acting like she hadn’t said anything before