Is this weird and would you be offended?

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I'm 8 weeks pregnant and a UK size 16. My mother in law offered me some of her old clothes when I get bigger and she's roughly a size 26.
I would feel a bit weird wearing my MIL's hand me downs and I have to dress smart for work. The size issue bothered me as well as I felt like she was saying that seeing as I am already on the big size that I will probably go up 10 dress sizes anyway.
Am I over reacting?

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Yes you are. She was just being kind to offer you. Nothing to be offended about.

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Don’t even think twice about it. She thinks she being helpful. Throw them in the back of your closet and donate them when you are done. By the end of your pregnancy you might enjoy wearing a big dress on the weekends. I always feel better wearing something too big vs. squeezing into a smaller t ice.

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Personally, I would be offended... because the same thing happened to me. 
Pre-pregnancy, I’m roughly a US size 4. My mother kept getting XL-XXL sized clothing for me and played it off like she didn’t understand why I was offended. First off, with sizing like that, I’m a XS-S, sometimes M if I’m wanting something extra roomy (like oversized sweaters). Secondly, I’ve struggled with an eating disorder for 13+ years and she’s known about it the entire time. So for her to play it off like I was in the wrong for being upset was insanely insensitive. BUT that’s just me. Others may be grateful for freebies and such, especially if they have experience with tailoring/hemming clothing.

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dont get offended because you honestly dont know how big you will become. I was wearing a size small even xs and my mother offered me her clothes which is L/XL and I laughed now I thank God for her giving me her clothes!!!

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From what you’re saying it sounds like
she was just offering some help, not taking a dig at your size. Sometimes things offend us because we ourselves have an insecurity about it.

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She was being kind ... but 26 for a 16 does seem a bit of a jump... but who knows what pregnancy will do? I guess hold on to them, don’t feel obliged to wear them, but be open to it - the extra room might be spot on when you’re heavily pregnant and want nothing near tight!

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I'd assume it would be more about her seeing herself as smaller/ closer to your size then her insinuating you are big.
I wouldn't think it was ment to offed but understand why it caught you off guard.

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My mom kinda did the same thing, she bought me maternity clothes (very thoughtful) but she bought me like 3 sizes bigger and they were like a tent on me. I was like ummm how much do you think I'm gonna gain??LOL but her intention was good as I'm sure your mil was

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you can always wear a cute belt or fix it so it fits ok.. I love big flowy dresses pregnant or not 😉

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oh man, I completely understand. I was a size 8 before getting pregnant with my son. I gained a ton of weight as and ended up a size 13 after all was said and done. now here I am pregnant again and my mom is giving me size 22 clothes 😭. after getting my hair completely butchered by a horrible girl at this salon I have been feeling epic bad and to have my mom give me clothes that big made me feel so much worse about myself.  I am sorry you are going thru this.  honestly,  she was probably just trying to help because not all clothing brands are equal, for instance I fit in most 13 to 16 outfits but with some brands I have to get size 18. good luck hunny, and don't let her get you down.

Is this weird and would you be offended?

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