He cheated

Samantha

I honestly thought my husband wasn’t the guy to cheat or do anything of that nature. We’ve been together for 7 almost 8 years. I found out a few days ago that he was texting another lady for about 3 weeks. I read the messages and quite honestly I don’t see him the same way. He told her that he loved her and called her by the pet name he had for me. I’m just really hurt, confused and quite honestly angry. I feel like my whole world came crashing in on me. I don’t know what to do how to react how to keep on my day to day life. I can’t smile laugh or anything I find myself shutting down when I no intention to. I feel like a failed at my marriage like the rest of my family did in theirs. I understand his apologies and I know I have to come to terms with this. I’m not leaving him I want to work on this marriage. But is it wrong if me to still feel pain, to still feel like his “I love you” means less now that he told it to a complete stranger. Is it bad that I see him in a different light? Is it bad that I can’t let it go? My pride and my dignity isn’t a part of me not letting go just the mere fact that as a wife, I’ve been disrespected and disappointed to a degree of which I can not handle. I can forgive it all but I just can’t forgive the “I love you sweetheart” message. It’s just burned into my memory. Every time I find myself having a good time with him it pops up in my head. It’s not fair to neither of us, my reactions and his actions just aren’t easy to comprehend. Like I can’t get a hold of my emotions. I’m sorry for this long post but I haven’t talked to anyone and I just need someone to tell me I’ll be ok.