I’m sexually active, on combination birth control, and we use protection every single time. Every time we buy a new box of condoms we turn off the light and hold a flashlight up to each individual wrapped to check for holes or tears. I’ve very rarely missed a pill, and my OB said that “as long as I’m using protection 100% of the time and haven’t missed more than two pills of Sprintec, then it’s highly unlikely I’m pregnant” (her words exactly). That being said, I still get paranoid every month when my period is around the corner. We’ve talked about it and neither of us want kids at this point in our relationship or even in our lives right now. I know we’re being extremely safe and careful.

Anyway, the last few times we’ve had sex I let him finish on my chest after he pulls out and takes the condom off. I cross my legs immediately (my paranoia gets the better of me). He finishes, it always ends up on my chest and around my collar bone. We put our undies on, I clean myself up, and all is good. But I can’t shake the paranoia that I’m somehow pregnant from that. I’m not an idiot, I paid attention in sex Ed and have learned a lot from self research and family advice. I’ve always gotten my period, and it’s always a huge relief because I know we’re doing everything right but I still can’t shake the feeling. How do I get over this?

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**Update: I’m on birth control for hormonal reasons, and I’m completely happy with it. I currently have no interest in an implant or any other methods of birth control, I just want to know how to alleviate that monthly paranoia. Maybe I’ll never be able to, since I’m so terrified of being pregnant at this moment in my life 🤷🏻‍♀️**