I may sound bitter but🤷🏻‍♀️

So I have a friend, we have been pregnant twice at the same time however my last pregnancy ended up in a miscarriage last year while she was still pregnant. She bragged all the time about her pregnancy and I never once said a word because I thought maybe I was being sensitive (which I was) I already had two children and I was pregnant with my 3rd the only thing I could think about was that I was just grateful to have the two kids I still had an that maybe it just wasn’t my time. Here is where maybe I am being bitter idk but my first born has Spina Bifida he was born with it and has several difficulties with walking and bowel and bladder issues. He has a physical iep for school and is also on social security even though he doesn’t get money monthly or anything he still is on social security for when he is older. Here is where it gets difficult for me as a “good” friend. I found out I am pregnant with my rainbow baby in April. I am now 19 weeks and have recently found out I have a blood clotting disorder that can turn fatal for my baby girl. Knowing that this girl is my friend I tell her about it and her reply is “oh that’s sad hope it doesn’t happen again” I asked her what her deal was an she said in reply that “everything happens to you” I asked what that is suppose to mean an she replied with. Well I find out my son has a speech problem and your kid gets social security and an iep walk way for school when I can’t get anything for my child. Then your other child gets a free walk through school with nothing wrong with her and now you tell me you have a blood clotting disorder when you know I bled a lot after I gave birth to my second child and I didn’t have any explanation as to why she bled other than her placenta was stuck inside her. Where her attitude came from have no clue but again, yesterday she messaged me saying she needed to talk to me because it was important I was like okay? What’s up! She said I think I’m pregnant she said she has hemmroids, pimples, bleeding gums and she is tired. She said she missed two pills last Thursday and Friday an that a pregnancy test shows a positive followed by sending me a picture of her test which had no line whatsoever I politely said “I don’t see anything” she says your blind if you can’t see that. She said she was going to get an abortion or placing the baby up for adoption and here is when I flipped my shit! I’ve had a miscarriage. You don’t tell someone that crap knowing what they have been through. I don’t give a damn if it’s a freaking joke just don’t. This girl had the nerve to tell me that I’m not a good friend that I only care for myself and that she has no one other than her husband and kids to confide in. Well bitch, now you know how it feels ✋🏽 Do I sound petty or do I have a right to be pissed at this whole situation?

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Ka

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cut that toxic ass bitch out of your life for good!

Em

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I think I would’ve socked her In her mouth if she said “everything happens to you” and then brought up my sons disability. Speech problems do not effect people the way that does. I personally have had a speech problem, it’s resolved now but I would’ve lived the rest of my life with it than to ever have to deal with what your poor son has to go through. May god bless him, your other child, your new baby, and yourself. I’ll pray for you guys! Hope everything works out, and your baby in heaven is watching down on you💖

B

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Sounds like you both hate each other? Why are y’all friends?

Ka

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you don't need that negative child in your life. good riddance.
you don't need that negative child in your life. good riddance.

Ja

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Im sorry for your losses and hope this little one sticks, I was told I have DVT then told I didn’t have it and was told to take half a aspirin every night.I think you handle that the right way, iv lost two babies both still born. My family have all been supportive and friends. With our first loss my mum didn’t know what to say because she had 5 healthy pregnancy (I did send her to Hospital at 6 1/2 months) but she was there and trying to find out why like we where. A friend at work is going through IVF and has lost a little one and we talk about how we feel and the common grounds from our experience I do the same with my SIL she had her son two days after I was due with mine last year and unlike my 3 other sisters we could talk about after labor experience and how she was feeling even now im 18w3d with our rainbow and my SIL knows the medical term and can explain them to me 🤗 she’s a nurse aged care but knows more then me. Mum had picked on me when I told her I was pregnant again and she asked when are you due I told her December she said “yummie Hospital food for Christmas” lol I told her she has to bring me some home cooked food she said I was dreaming lol

Si

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Ya.. you need new friends. You had so much happen to you and for her to be such a bitch is ridiculous. And just breathe girl, I have a blood clotting disorder as well and am followed closely by my high risk OB and regular OB, itll all work out hun!