In the past couple of years I've come to terms that I will never get to have a normal relationship with my Mom. I'm jealous of other women that are close to their moms. My mom is the true definition of a narcissist. If she can't benefit from you or use you in any way, she won't have anything to do with you. She is constantly starting stuff, she blames everyone else for problems that she caused herself, she always plays the victim, she accepts no responsibility for her own actions. I'm currently 28 and have finally learned that to do what is best for me (and my sanity) is to stop trying to force a relationship with her. This is a woman who would withold food from me when I was a teenager and tell me I was fat (I was underweight at 102 lbs). My dad's dad (my grampa) was a known sexual abuser/rapist and she would leave me with him as a child and of course I was sexually abused til I was 16. I went to authorities, reported him, dealt with a 3 year long trial until he went to jail and died there. She LOVED all the drama and thrived off of it. It took me so long to figure out how to forgive her for putting me in harm's way as a child. She KNEW what he was doing and failed to protect her children! I don't hear from her much unless she needs something from me (we live a few miles apart and my workplace is literally next door to her house). I'm just very upset right now because I am being induced on Wednesday and I let her know that after my appointment this afternoon when my doctor and I decided that was the best course of action. I always dread reaching out to her but my husband and I decided it would be the right thing to do and if she wants to act up then that has no reflection on us. I called her and told the the time and date and she acted mad but wasn't really responding to me. We get off the phone and then she starts texting me books about how I'm basically a horrible daughter and crazy stuff that I couldn't even make up. I just feel sad. I know the best thing for me and my little family is to just leave her alone and avoid her as much as possible to avoid that kind of negativity in our life. This year has been so peaceful because I really haven't talked to her much and I've enjoyed it but sometimes I just wish I had a normal mom.