We have our 20 week scan next week and have decided not to find out our baby's gender. We have several family members who aren't happy with the decision and they have tried convincing us to find out so that they can know. If we happen to see the gender then we won't be telling anyone anyway. They mostly want to know because they want to buy gender-coded clothes, pink for a girl and such. We just insist that all colors are nice and avoid buying any really pink stuff. They aren't happy 😅