Boring Sex, what do I do!?

Ladies, I have an amazing relationship with my man. I can’t complain about his size either, but I’m honestly bored in bed. We’ve talked about it multiple times. I just find it boring, I like things a bit aggressive I like feeling like I have a man in control but I don’t have that in bed and he knows because we have talked about it. For example when he goes down on me it feels like he’s licking ice cream off his cone and his hands are no where to be seen, I kindly saw babe can you grab my thighs and pull me into you and lick clockwise and he’ll do it just to stop 5 seconds later and continue what he was doing. Like I said we have an amazing relationship but the sex piece is driving me crazy and not what I want at all. I don’t know what else to do, it just doesn’t seem to be natural for him and I also know I can’t force that.