Am I overreacting?

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Me and my husband got in the car today and his phone automatically connected to the Bluetooth. Well a link to a pornographic video popped up on the display, meaning a website that he had previously been on. I asked him about it numerous times and he continuously lied to me telling me that it was probably some ad or something and swore he didn’t watch it. Eventually he admitted to watching it and this is his reasoning. Now I don’t care so much about him watching porn. We have discussed it before and it was in agreement that it is not okay. However, I don’t care so much about him watching it than I do his reasoning for watching it and continuously lying about it. I’m 27 weeks pregnant and already feeling down about myself and the way I look but this just makes me feel like crap. Do you ladies think I’m overreacting or do I have good enough reason to be upset? TIA

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Fuking hate porn and he would be single trust me

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why would you feel bad? is he trying to say he can't get off to you or it take a to long that's why he was trying to get close? and bullahit no man's gonna watch porn to get close in case we do something. he got off.

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sounds like he turned it around and made it sound like he did it for you.... anyways.... don't cast the first stone, my late mom says guys who look T porn are healthy men. I think men need visuals for masturbation where we can just fantasize when we do it. it's the same sin. just forgive him, it's not the first time he's done it, it's just the first time he's been caught.

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This might not be a popular opinion, and I’ll admit that if he’s not a fantastic guy it could be way off. Let’s just go into this with the assumption that he’s a good guy and really does love you. 
It sounds to me like he’s struggling with your insecurity. I don’t say this to blame you in any way, I’m at 32 weeks and feel like a whale, and I get what you’re going through. But I do think that we sometimes forget that our insecurities can be hard on the guys that love us too. He may feel more pressure to perform in an attempt to reassure you. The stakes are higher, especially if the hormone changes are making you extra sensitive in addition to the physical changes. This added pressure he’s putting on himself to try and make you feel good about yourself the only way he knows how could potentially make him struggle to perform. I would say, if that’s the case, the pressure he’s putting on himself would be a bigger issue for performance than any physical changes you could possibly be facing. He’s not looking for additional stimulation because he’s not attracted to you, he’s over thinking and psyching himself out. 
None of this excuses the lying, that would be my only issue in this situation, but I do think pregnancy has a bigger impact on men than we realize, and they do feel out of control and probably don’t know how to help, so they panic and do and say things they might not otherwise.

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Oh hell no I’d be so pissed too, especially his last text “trying to get close so you wouldn’t feel bad” ??? Is he trying to say your not attractive to him or what? I don’t know what I’d do. Maybe don’t offer him sex anymore and don’t give in. 
I think I’d take a personal day and stay at a friends or something.

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What does he mean when he says so you wouldn’t feel bad about yourself?
Every relationship is different, but if you’ve told him you aren’t ok with porn, he should respect that. Also, he should’ve just told the truth right away since the proof was literally right before his eyes.

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He did it for you girl, why be mad at him about it?.....UH HELL NO!  I’d be more mad about the lying and dumbass excuse and making it your fault he did it so that you wouldn’t feel bad about yourself. Now that’s some BS.

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wtf does his last message meant to mean? so he needs porn to get close? so u wouldnt feel bad about yourself ? wtf is wrong with him. if it were mine hed be single. 
ps what a dumbass it came up on bluetooth 😂😂

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I wouldn't say you are overreacting, but remember you are pregnant and hormonesare running high. He definitely shouldn't have lied, that was wrong but I personally wouldn't have been mad in the first place. BUT I don't have a problem with porn. If it's making you uncomfortable, you should talk to him about it. You guys are married, and the only way something like this can be avoided is if you're honest about how you're feeling. It would hurt my feelings too if my SO gave me that lame excuse. It's crazy that people are saying to leave him.... He's your husband and the father to your child.

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