So my mother In law in particular causes 95% of my anxiety. I already battle with being bipolar and a few other things that honestly make my husband's life harder already, but nothing compares to how living with his parents negatively affects our marriage.. All those things people say and all those things in movies about living with inlaws IS TRUE. I've lived in homeless shelters, hotels with syringes in every crevice, house hopped my whole life including with foster parents and I am so grateful for having a roof over my head even in not so desirable situations so of course I'm grateful for the roof but I've been married to an amazing Christian man for over a year now and we've already had awful experiences in our marriage and though it may be wrong... I blame our housing situation. We always see eye to eye we always talks through triumph but since moving into his parents house I cant be a loving wife and he can hardly be a leader while his parents (mom) blocks us. It would take a while to explain everything.. from not being able to do our laundry, cook our own meals, care for our pets properly, to not being able to rest after working all day in 100+ degree Texas weather (which my husband and I both do unlike her) we cant express ourselves without having back lash or go to church which my husband has to do for his ethics class. It's their house so we respect them with all we have but his mom is overbearing and manipulative. I've never had beef with her though she tries so hard to start stuff, I respect and clean her house even though she's home all day and I'm at work 80% of most days. She lies constantly and purposely bring up the fact that she wants a grandchild though we cant conceive which hurts enough as it is.. She says things like "I hate my other daughter inlaw but she gave me grandchildren so she's not completely useless" she claims to hate her and her youngest sons "fiance" but says it doesn't matter since they can give her grandkids ,although both of them don't and won't bring their kids in her house bc of the conditions.. if we don't hang out with her or drink with her from the moment we walk in the door from work she says we are irresponsible and will find anything to say or do to get our attention. I've contemplated calling someone to take away her pets bc they are in awful shape and she purposely does things to my pets that she knows I have an issue with since I work with animals for a living, she also has an aggressive dog that has nearly killed her other dogs too many times and gets offended when I keep my dogs away. A side thing that also makes it hard to be here is how nasty they are.. roaches everywhere. trash , animal pee and poop from her intact male cats and dogs. Plus everytime I buy something for the house or her neglected pets, or anything it will be unappreciated. I truly am thankful for the things I have but i decided instead of driving my husband up the wall with my rants like I usually do I will share here anonymously in hopes someone can relate and shed light on this situation as a favor to me. ps. my husband feels the same way I do and we are both working on getting back out of this house asap, he just handles it better than me