So my ex and one of my close friends started dating and it’s too much for me. He was emotionally abusive but he’s also matured a lot recently and has become a better person in general. And like I still low key still have feelings for him but I know that it’s s bad idea for us to so I’ve never acted on it. But she told me yesterday that he asked her to be his girlfriend and she said yes but she had to talk to me about it before anyone else knew. I had an idea that they had feelings for each other so I wasn’t surprised when she told me that but I was definitely in shock. I felt like it was fine at first, for a good while. But then we started to watch a movie (we were all at a party) and they were snuggly and it became too much. I was spending the night at the house so I went to bed. But what actually happened is that I went on and off crying all night and I realized that I can’t be close with her if they are dating. I feel really bad because yesterday I acted like it was ok but I’ve been having a low key breakdown all night. I want them to break up but when I tell her later I don’t want it to seem like I’m pressuring her to break up with him. And that’s not the goal of me talking to her I just want her know that I’m not mad at her but I cannot be friends with her right now at least. And like it’s really hard because I love her so much but I’m just now getting better with my mental health and I can’t risk it getting worse. But anyways is it manipulative to to text her and tell her this?