how do y'all find the perfect nude lipstick

i have tried forever to find a good nude lipstick. i like liquid matte lipsticks but cannot find a nude that works for me. im pale skin with cool undertones so most of them i try out always look very warm toned and peach on me or too dark which just doesnt look good. i have watched youtube vids of people with fair skin and try the ones they recommend and same problem. i need a pinky pale color but none look that way on me. im skeptical to buy before trying since i really dont want to waste money if it doesnt work for me. whats the secret to finding it and if anyone has recommendations please tell me.