Growing up my parents were both very narcissistic (I've just recently discovered Narcissistic Personality Disorder and learned/am learning a ton about it)... They were very physical as well as mentally abusive. They manipulated me alot as well as others around them, have been alcoholics for a long time and he has a history of drugs... Fast forward to now and i have an amazing boyfriend of 4 years, we lived together on and off with his parents when mine would become abusive and then promise they changed and id go back and the cycle would repeat. My father has always been abusive and when id cry and say i wish i was adopted or i wish i could run away when i was only TEN YEARS OLD or say i was depressed hed beat me.. he went as far as choking me out when i was 17 when i left for the last time.. i have loads of abusive memories from even 3 and 4 years old of him flipping me and my mom off mattresses, me hiding in closets and him pinning me down or MAKING me bend over in towels while shaking so he could "properly spank me". well for a little over a year now we have been living together in the house we bought and he has been helping me recover mentally amd emotionally from everything theyve put me through and learning more and more how to understand why i get the way i get. ive made tremendous improvements as well as distamcing from my parents control and manipulation, my other family members have begun to become fed up as well.. Im 9 months pregnant and most recently my mother has gone nuts about the relationships i have with my aunts (she had me at 16 my aunts are 6 and 9 years older than me we are also all 2 months apart in our pregnancies) she gets very jealous of relationships i have with anyone other than her and my father, tells me my relationships are unhealthy with aunts, and my grandma (she helped relieve alot of the pressure from the abuse and my mom did not like that she couldnt control that. went as far as taking my younger siblings who are 7 and 4 away from seeing my grandma for "crossing her"). My mother is the ONLY person who acts this way and everyone now is becoming super fed up. well we are planning my boyfriends daiper party at my gmas because his family are originally family friends of my grandparents and alot of who he hangs out with also hang out with my uncle robert and my gma has a beautiful patio/garden area so we wanted it there. my mother "was not allowing that" but i further told her this is his daiper party this is where he wants it end of story. she responded only with "😂 thats cool" and then "👍" this morning. So we went to my gmas this evening for my aunts birthday and she originally showed up with an attitude and hadnt talked to me the whole time, which whatever, but when she went to leave she high fived everyone and i was going to attempt giving her a hug as well to make her feel better (huge mistake i dont know why i sympathize with her selfishness) and she SLAPS ME in the face decently hard. i say "SERIOUSLY?" and she proceeds to just be snarky breath WREAKS of alcohol and starts pushing hard on my belly to where i say "ouch seriously STOP your being obnoxious" to which she becomes snarky again making what you dont push on her i said "no not that hard im not trying to abuse her before she comes out". I proceeded to have to leave my grandmas because i couldnt hold back tears any longer and had to call my SO while he was at work because i couldnt calm down. it just messed me up so bad after everything ive been tryong to recover from ect. my aunt said "she probably thought she was playing. you need to tell her its mot okay". but in my eyes she just uses these things to further hurt me and guilt trip me and get into my head to make me feel like its my fault at the end of the day. and i know deep down it qasnt playing because she said after "that kinda felt good" and laughed... im just to a point of needing to cut her out of my life.. any opinions or just support is so very much needed