So my older brother recently moved back after his wife took their two sons and went to North Carolina in a rash not well planned decision. A little backstory about my brother and a little backstory on why she’s done with his ass despite her being nutty too.

A quick run down on my brother is that he’s known for lying for absolutely no reason, stealing, manipulation and being opportunistic and quite frankly cynical. He literally separated himself from his family when he had his first son, got married in secret and had the second one which wasn’t planned as well but deemed us not worthy of being family but went around his very dysfunctional in laws. It’s almost like we forcefully made him a dad at 19 years old. He’s also extremely socially awkward and immature and doesn’t accept any kind of criticism.

So we got into a full on screaming match over the phone around 2 1/2 years ago when he decided he wanted to yell at our mom and tell her how he doesn’t care for her at that very moment our relationship was never the same, I’m honestly afraid that I no longer actually care about him at all. *Spoiler alert* he was a MAJOR hell raiser (stealing from kids on school, breaking into houses, setting shit on fire and that’s was just things he did outside of the house) who literally stayed in trouble but didn’t think he needed to be disciplined or punished at all. Despite telling my mother all these disgusting and asshole-y things and depriving her of a true bond with her grandchildren she still lets his dirty ass move back in temporarily, gave him $250 to get a Lyft car and damn near $30 everyday for 2 weeks which he’s given no intention on ever paying back. My mom and I are in the same exact boat on how we feel towards him since we often confide our annoyance with him.

Brother is also very gross and by gross I mean use the bathroom, not wash his hands and touch everything in the kitchen, has only showered twice since being here for 2 1/2 weeks despite their only being shampoo in the shower nor has he brushed his teeth within the weeks of being here, I’m very confused on how he was even married.

What’s been really grinding my gears is that he’s sleeping in my room temporarily until I get new carpet and assemble my bed that’s been propped in the hallway. Since he has a history of stealing shit everyone in the house has been diligent about keeping electronics and sharp objects away (he makes everyone uncomfortable) from him knowing that he doesn’t have any problems selling your things for money. Everyone feels extremely unsafe around him because of the cynical energy he gives off. I’ve already realized he’s been going through my work bags and things in my room that are sitting up until I get storage. I’m seconds from going batshit crazy on him.

Now he’s wife backstory, she’s been the breadwinner in their family since like ever and is stale as a cracker, she has no personality and is a shit talker. She will sit at your house and watch tv and won’t speak to you at all then go home and talk about you and how she’s not involved in anything. She should’ve just married a tv honestly. So apparently my brother sits at home all day smoking weed, drinking beer, texting women and looking “suggestive” Craigslist ads while watching their youngest son but claims he can’t get a job because he’s watching the youngest boy despite daycare being a real life thing that exist. Despite moving to a new state so quickly and unplanned was stupid of her I understand her being done with him cause just being a sibling I been done with him.

The entire time my brother has been here his phone has been going off like crazy and claims his wife isn’t talking to him and he has no friends yet his phone is going off. So whatever she was fearing he’s obviously doing and been doing it’s continuing. He’s only mentioned his kids on two occasions and at this point is acting like he has no children or no responsibilities. Claims he’s driving Lyft but NEVER has money except to pay for the car and comes to house at the oddest hours. Of course he doesn’t get a house key because he isn’t trusted nor is he ever left alone in the house and all doors remain closed so he only has the options to my room where the door is being blocked so it won’t close at all, the kitchen which he leaves and mess and the bathroom that he leaves like a urinal and I’m constantly cleaning up after.

The only reason confrontation isn’t happening is because there’s a tension brewing, if I say something and he responds in a specific matter I’m not sure I won’t react in the worse way possible, he’s been giving me nasty looks and mumbling under his breath and it’ll just take one comment before I’m reaching for his ass, I feel like a ticking time bomb. I never even mentioned the fact that the deadbolt feels like it’s been messed with or he tries to ask for everyone’s whereabouts. I never thought I would ever feel this way about a sibling but I honestly cannot stand him at all anymore.

*Rant over*