(I promise if you read fast it's not long!😞)

My partner seems to find it hard to hold back from criticising me and my personality/character.

He will find some flaw or pick on little things about me and try to let me know in a nice way, but it's too often! It's draining!

I understand if it happens one two maybe three times over the course of months. But he does this multiple times a week.

He has said things like, I'm a fearful person and being around me is draining. However I suffer from social anxiety and tried to explain that fear isn't a part of my character but a part of my disorder. He disagreed and continued to say it's just how I am and that I am my anxiety.

He also said last night randomly during a good conversation, that I have a sad/melancholy vibe about me and that even when I'm happy, I'm sad. Which hurts because I've been doing really good in terms of my anxiety past three weeks and have even began hormonal balance meds last week because I was sick of him being sick of it.

Anxiety has barely been present last few weeks so for him to say even when I'm happy it comes across as sad makes me feel like my progress means little to him and what's the point of continuing with him if he thinks "fear is part of who I am" and not my anxiety, that it's draining, and that I'm sad even when I'm happy?

I'm finding myself distancing from him and not really wanting to speak to him. I groan at his phone calls and literally push myself to answer and sound like I'm enjoying myself on the phone with him. Just so that I can say "well at least we've spoken for the day".

I've told him before to stop and he has promised to but clearly he's finding t difficult to.

He has ROCD (Relationship Obessive Compulsive Disorder) but has been therapy and on meds and has been doing better. Sometimes I can't tell if it's him or the ROCD.