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I saw this posted on instagram and wanted to hear thoughts!

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My mother loves me entirely and always has shown her love. But she also spanked me when I deserved it and taught me to respect my elders. She never ABUSED me just because I was spanked. I never had bruises and I was never afraid of her but I knew damn well if I did something I knew I wasn’t supposed to do then I wasn’t going to talk my way out of it. A consequence isn’t supposed to be rainbows, sunshine, hugs and talking it out. If you don’t want to spank your kids, then don’t. No one is forcing you. But it really pisses me off when people call great parents like my mother abusive because she popped my butt every once in a while. 😡🙄

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I think furiousgoldfish needs to shut up and go away

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I respected my parents and didn’t need to be abused to learn it💅🏻

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Shit like this pisses me off. Spanking your kid isn't abuse. Locking your kid outside in -35C weather (without the windchill) with no shoes, socks or coat and keeping them out there while you eat dinner (typically 20 mins to an hour) because they didn't clean the counters *exactly* how you like them cleaned is abuse. 
Here is the funny part out of everything. I was raised by monsters, yet I am not one, and you wouldn't ever know, I never grew up in a volatile and abusive home, that has only gotten worse the older I have gotten.

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My parents never hit me once. But they made their expectations clear. Both my sister and I have done well for ourselves without any issues. Now that I’m a parent I realize I’m also not a spanker or even a yeller. I find I get much better results than anger. My nephew is raised in a very anger fueled home. My sister in law is a big time spanker. My nephew is unruly and very rude. He struggles to maintain proper emotions and deal with his anger. He has hit me on multiple occasions. I COMPLETELY blame his mother and her abusive parenting.

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I've gotten my ass whooped plenty of times and see nothing wrong with it. Spanking is not abuse. You definitely should not leave bruises but spanking isn't that bad. Though it doesnt work for every kid. For me, a grounding worked better but thats just because I have a high pain tolerance so it doesnt faze me. You don't have to spank your kids but don't tell other people how to parent. I would definitely spank my children with no problem

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Genuinely curious why aren’t ppl giving opinions lol??

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I definitely think it's important that actual abuse isnt being hidden under the veil of thinking the child is benefiting in some way.

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This is a generalization, however most of what was said here is supported by research. And as a former CPS worker, it’s what I’ve witnessed first hand as well. So I agree for the most part (meaning this isn’t the case Every Time, but statistically yes - I agree.)

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