Let me start off by saying I love my husband to the ends of the world and back. I love our children even more. We have been married for 15 years and only none of it really happy. He is so laid back and doesn’t really care about anything not even himself. He traveled to different parts of the world as an Army Brat and now when I say I want to travel to these places and more he always has an excuse why he doesn’t want to go, he’s been there already. He has barely took interest in raising our sons. This started less than six months after we got married, when his grandmother passed away. It has taken a toll on my emotions towards him and makes me annoyed when the kids only come to me because they know I will at least give an answer to a question. I can’t see life without him, I am 39 and he is 43 and has had 3 heart attacks and a small stroke. I know they say men change after heart attacks but it got worse with each episode. I want it to get better. But it’s to the point where I can’t speak to him about it without raising my voice which tends to start an argument. I don’t want to give up can anyone help me fix him?