We've been together for 1.5 years. I officially met his best friend and his best friend's girlfriend for the first time about a week and a half ago. His best friend's girlfriend and I talked nearly the whole time, and I feel we hit it off. She told me her birthday was coming up, and because I'm constantly doubting myself, I asked my bf if today was her birthday and sure enough, it was, confirmed by her bf. I asked if he was doing anything special for her tonight. Our text convo went on like this:

I know he's joking but I'm a bit bothered. For my 21st birthday (my first and ONLY birthday we spent as a couple so far), he didn't do ANYTHING. Planned nothing. He even came over to my house LATE and missed cake and ice cream, a tradition, with my family...because he was playing video games. Valentines day rolled by, nothing. Our one year anniversary, four days AFTER Valentines day, and AGAIN, nothing.

Am I wrong to feel this way? I went ALL out for his first birthday we spent together- surprised him, wrote a cute and sentimental card, collabed with his mom on cake and gifts, dinner, spent the day with the rest of his family too. And then his second birthday rolled by and what his mom and I planned together didn't go through because he "didn't want to" and played video games. He told me to come later and didn't tell me when they were doing cake and ice cream so I missed it. He didn't even want to spend the day with me. Same thing for Christmas- thoughtful gifts, winter plans that he didn't want to do, and he got me a gift on Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">eve</a>. Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">EVE</a>. I loved the gift, but jeez, really? You couldn't have put any more thought into it? You couldn't have MADE me a fucking card, a slice of pie, just ANYTHING for our anniversary? I'm not asking for material things, but THOUGHT and EFFORT.

Like, idk????? I'm so disappointed. You're a 23 year old man and still don't know how to make a woman feel good. FUCK.

***EDIT***

Thanks for the responses yall, however I just want to clear some things up. He has celebrated his birthday his whole life and has also kind of celebrated a girls (his ex- they were on a break during the week of her birthday so he got her flowers and some other things then left it on her porch for her to say she wanted to break up). He's had huge birthday parties and celebrates every year. He has given me gifts (that he bought after I picked them out, nothing he picked up hints on when we've gone out previously) which I probably didn't make clear, it's not so much the gift I care about, it's the thought behind it and the time spent together. We have talked about this a few times but he has gotten upset because he thinks it's me calling him a bad boyfriend...it's not.