Reposting here as I really need some advice. 2nd of Aug I told my dad we were expecting (my 3rd, partners 1st), besides one short conversation where I messaged him on the 6th he hasn't messaged or called me at all (we live 6hrs apart). Although, his partner (whom I adore) messaged me on the 5th and told me her and dad think "we should consider getting married sooner rather then later because it would help the baby flourish knowing it has a mum and dad committed to each other".

So ok, just that is not sooo bad but still irritating but I found out yesterday that Dad has also been passing up on his daddy duties with my brothers as well. My auntie took the older brother to get his Ls a few years ago and my uncle took the younger one to do the test a few months ago. Then dad, in a random conversation that I started once again, mentioned he tried and failed, without mentioning at all who took him. This bugs me because he apparently didn't like that my uncle took him to get the test done. Usually I'd say my uncle and auntie shouldn't butt in but Dad has told my younger brother who is 16.5 that he is moving out at 18. He doesnt have his licence, bank account, no knowledge of how to be an adult.. yeah hes been a pest of a teenager and immature for his age but I am seriously thinking Dad just doesn't give a rats arse.

And the reason I decided to write this post now instead of a few days ago is because I just found a post Dad put up yesterday praising to the high horse his daughter in law (not married yet but easier to describe) who was doing some Christian singing charity thing. Good for her really, she's fantastic and I love her but am I allowed to say 'what about me?'

For a little context he also has a cover photo of himself and my brothers on Facebook and I don't remember the last time he said anything about me. My partner is getting really pissed off and thinks hes traded up his family, and I'm kinda inclined to agree. It seriously feels like I'm not a part of the family. My uncle called me yesterday to ask a question about my brother (hes also been taking him to psychiatrist appointments) and filled me in on what's been happening and it's the first time in forever that anyone has given me an update, I deeply appreciated it. My uncle and I aren't very close but maybe that needs to change. Even he agreed with me when I said dad is in his own little world. Anyway, I'm over it and I seriously don't know what to do. I've tried talking to him a couple of times about how he doesn't contact me much and he just says it's the way his side of the family is and then the conversation ends up on how Mum wasn't a loving mum etc. The oldest brother recently had a meltdown and told dad he resents him for not being around much when we were little, dad denies this and says he was around. This family...

Update: He contacted me today. Two comments on Facebook posts. One tagging me asking about some nappies on a sale page. Another on my post about nausea through the night saying rest my brain... that's it.