hey everyone.

my husband and I leave tomorrow for the vr. the doctor is about five hours from us so we are staying over night and the surgery is Thursday morning.

I'm such a nervous wreck. I try to stay positive, I really do. but in FB groups, women can be so forward and rude. I've been told to not even try for just a vv (our doctor will redo if the first time fails) because my husband will DEFINITELY need a double ve being 12 years out. I've done research and read what doctors have to say. my husband tells me to just stop listening to people who think their opinions are facts and stay with a positive mind. but I'm so scared of failure. I want this so badly, as we all do. I've been waiting for this day for over six years and it's finally here. but part of me is like why are we even trying? 12 years is just too far gone. and then the other part is saying that everything will be just fine.

thanks for listening to my mini rant. I honestly have no one else to talk to or relate to on this situation so it's nice to have a place to vent when I'm feeling down or alone in it. I have tried connecting with other women in the same situation and it always seems to be more of a judgemental "I know more than you" type of thing.