GUYSSSSSS. Posting on here because I already cried to my husband. Went to lunch with an old friend, we were in each other’s weddings and all that, have known each other for over a decade, yada yada. She doesn’t know we have been trying.

At the end of lunch, she tells me she is pregnant. She is clearly terrified and scared and says it was a total accident and she and her husband had sex once without protection. She has irregular periods so didn’t have any idea what time of month it was. Goes into a long story of how excited her husband is but doesn’t know how she feels about. I of course told her congratulations right away but then after she was saying she doesn’t know how she feels and she was angry it happened so quickly, I said something like “it’s really incredible— we have been trying for five months so its really incredibly lucky and I’m so happy for you.”

She goes “yeah I know it takes some people a long time, I’m just apparently incredibly fertile” and proceeds to tell me how she realized she was two weeks late while she was at dinner one night and rushed home and took ONE TEST and it was positive and she freaked out and screamed at her husband.

Meanwhile... I was fighting back tears the entire time. Obviously she’s going through a lot. I just couldn’t be the comfort for her that she was looking for. And I don’t want to be. Sitting there at lunch was my worst nightmare and hearing how she wasn’t trying and doesn’t know if she wants it mad me literally want to throw up. And the worst part is that I had to sit there being like “it’ll be fine” and keep reassuring her and she didn’t ask me a single question about us and whether or not I was okay. We have plans (she and I and one other girl) Sunday and already dreading it because I feel like I can’t cancel.

Just venting. Shit isn’t fair.