How to be enthusiastic about sex?

Question

Hey guys! So my fiance and I have been together for 3 years. I love him so much. But.. sex had gotten a bit boring. I feel like it’s almost a chore. I am always too tired to have sex, or I don’t feel like it. I’m never in the mood. 
Has anyone else had this happen ever? How do I get more enthusiastic about sex? I’m only 20 by the way. 
Thanks ladies

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There is a lot to say here, so I’m going to save my fingers the trouble and simply point you to the people/books that really helped me with this. 
Emily Nagoski wrote a book that unpacks a lot of the misinformation about female body and sexuality and helps the reader think through their notions about sex (what you like, why you like it, and what’s going on when you don’t).
Esther Perel has a book called Mating in Captivity in which she writes about sex, relationships, intimacy, etc. She is fantastic, and the book gave me a lot of vocabulary to communicate with my partner about what I was experiencing. She also has a podcast called Where Should We Begin which are basically one-shot couples counseling sessions.

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This might sound kind of weird but once I started eating more plant-based foods my sex drive went CRAY. My libido and energy went through the roof just by my diet changes. Idk if this helps but it might be worth a shot!! 🙌🏽💕

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Try a vibrater. It definitely can add spice.

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yes i will used to be like that before i met the woman i’m with now whom i love soooo much , when it was like that with me i fell out of love but hadn’t completely came to the realization that THAT WAS THE CAUSE of my lack of sex drive . ( of course i can’t say that’s your problem ) but now with my SO i love him so much & CANT GET ENOUGH 😫😫😫😫😫😫😫  he’s so perfect 🤤💛☺️