You Don't Have to Settle

I was in a relationship for 3 years with a man I thought was the one. For years we'd have the worst most fiery arguments late at night, and trying to talk to one another was like pulling teeth. I was constantly telling him over and over how unappreciated I felt and how I was losing my self confidence. I'd pry him for compliments and something to make me feel beautiful, wanted, needed. Our sex life was routine having it just so we couldn't say we weren't. Weeks would go by and I would feel unhappy, only for him to promise me things would change and I'd feel better. It was always more empty promises that wouldn't last more than a week.

Breaking up with him I thought I lost the only good thing in my life and I'd never be able to find anyone better.

Now, I've been with my new boyfriend for almost 2 years living a life I couldn't have even imagined. Being with a strong MAN made me realize how childish I was being. I didn't need anyone else in my life to feel beautiful or confident, I am everything. Powerful, strong and independent. He had an important interview today, and right afterwards called me to tell me he couldn't have come this far without me. Working as a team made us reach so much farther beyond our goals.

Years ago I would have been starved for this affection, eating up every word like it was my last meal. But today I didn't need to hear any of it. I knew already what was in his heart, because it was already in mine.

We don't need each other in our lives to feel whole, we want each other there. I have a team mate, a cheerleader, a shoulder to cry on, someone to be there when I break, and someone to stand beside me when I stand tall.

Don't let that thought in your head of needing to settle let you waste anymore of your life. I've never doubted that my current boyfriend was the one for me. I never sat up late at night alone with a pit in my gut thinking this would have to be it. I no longer feel the need to hide a part of myself to fit in someone else's world. And it's the most liberating feeling in the universe.

I am a woman. I am a goddess. And I have a king beside me to help me rule. And every woman should feel that strong.