Girls I really need some advice

Update. I told him how I was feeling and he is trying to do everything he can to keep me. I’m confused. He thinks that now he can fix everything and im just going to get over it like nothing happened because he wants me to stay.

I been married for three years we have two kids. Since the second one things have gotten really bad between me and husband. He said he wanted another baby but never showed any interested. Right before we found out that I was pregnant I found out that he was messaging girls on Craigslist asking for naked pictures and sending them back pictures of him. The whole pregnancy was very rough on our marriage and after he guilted me into having sex two weeks after giving birth which I have taken hard. Then we got in a fight and he shoved me and left bruises. He has a short temper with the kids. He is always flirting with girls. I had to make him stop talking to one of his friends because he was hiding it from me. Last night I told him I wanted to talk to him about a divorce and he was very mean about it saying I betrayed him and that I just want to hurt him. He also said that how can I kiss him and tell him I love him and have sex with him if I’m thinking about leaving. He really made me feel like I shouldn’t have told him how I feel. That I’m the bad guy and that I can’t do anything right. Today I had to spend three hours trying to make him feel better. All of today he didn’t want to talk about it or even think about it. Then tonight he comes outside to where I am and he’s naked and just puts his dick on my head wanting a blowjob. Then he got upset because I didn’t just jump up and start blowing him. I’m so confused and don’t know what to do. I do love him but im really not happy with us. He feels his only job is to make money and the house cooking and taking care of the kids and working is my job. We have been in counseling for a few months now. I just really need some advice or something. Thank you in advance.