Let me start off my saying I know masturbating is normal everyone does it but when your having issues in bed i dont think he should keep doing it especially cuz he knows it bothers me so he should respect how it makes me feel. I started using a dildo in front of him to try to turn him on and initiate sex and he seemed to get jealous and he said he wouldn't get jealous of I masturbated. My main point though is my SO never really wants sex and when we do have sex he rarely cums and cant cum with getting head only by jacking off. We have a kid together so obviously it happens but its very rare. He says hes not worried about cumming and then gives up if he cant cum but I always want to keep going cuz I dont really feel fully satisfied until he cums #1 because cum is a turn on for me and #2 it tells me I did my job right and that it felt good. But instead he will just come home the next morning from work and I told him even if I'm asleep to wake me up and I can help him jack off or help him get off somehow atleast but no he just comes home from work and Jack's off instead and what do ya know he can cum no problem when he Jack's off but cannot cum while fucking me. ( hes not watching porn so porn addiction or other fantasies aren't the issue nor is he cheating or talking to anyone and no hes not gay...those are all the answers ppl have said before but those aren't the issues) hes admitted that he prefers to jack off rather than have sex and I don't get it? When I wake up to go pee and there's just some TP with cum floating around I get pissed like why cant you cum for me? I'm also very kinky and I

Know I'm good in bed so idk wtf is the issue is. Ugh it's so frustrating I just want to cry. Why can't he be normal and cum during sex! HELP! What do u think is the issue? Is this normal?