I found out about this through a friend of his, I'd like to point out that it was shitty of his friend to openly say this in front of both me, my bf and the rest of their group of friends, I hate it when people mess around in my personal business. However, it was such a shock. I almost started crying. We've had some ups and downs and I'm not gonna lie to myself and say that I haven't felt tension and uninterest from him.

After that incident things got a bit better, he got scared I'd break up with him after I found out but I told him what's in the past should stay there. I can't help but have doubts, though. I still feel like my bf is kind of uninterested in our entire relationship - except maybe for the sex. We do the things he wants to do. Go out with his friends, he invites me to parties he wants to go to but if I suggest doing something different for a change he just flat out says no. No explanation, just no, I don't want to, that's stupid, why we gotta do that.

He wants to play games all day and talk about games and his friends and has gotten mad at me for not staying out past midnight to hang out (I don't have a car, I live in a horrible and sketchy neighbourhood and I can't just call up a cab whenever I want to cause that shits expensive. I use public transit everywhere and I have a student discount for that).

Something else that he does is he puts down my interests and refuses to discus stuff about my art, he doesn't want to go to exhibitions with me, doesn't want to go hiking or running etc etc. I've had him insult my art on numerous occasions, he's also insulted me and my looks in front of his friends (I think he believes this is humour) and when we've fought about our relationship he's called me a child and has said that the reason why the relationship is boring is because I don't stay out late at night with him. Like, I've gone out of my comfort zone SO MUCH for him and he hasn't done anything! He hates my friends, says he doesn't want to associate with them, when I invite him to go out with other people that he's not particularly close to he just says We'll see about it????

I feel trapped half the time. When it's just us doing normal stuff or just sitting around at home it's almost always good but the minute we have to start making plans or go out with his friends (never mine cause he apparently hates my best friend bc he's gay, makes fun of him with his group of friends too) it's like he pulls a 180. Goes all macho man, makes me feel like I'm a bro and not his girlfriend.

Just, UGH. it's been so frustrating! I've tried talking about it, tried giving him suggestions on how to improve ourselves and the relationship when he's said it's boring to him but he just goes "And then what? So what if we go to the zoo? I don't want to hike. Let's go to this party I really want to go to but that is a crowd you're not particularly a fan of."

I try to make things right, I almost always do what he wants to do, maybe I'm nitpicking but I'm just so frustrated and confused. Any guidance would help! I'm desperate, I don't know how to bring this issue up anymore, I feel like he'll just continue shutting me down.

Emotional rollercoaster