How do I get my friends to like my boyfriend

Tonight I was in the kitchen doing the dishes when my boyfriend got home from work and he said he wanted to have sex but I said no I wasn’t in the mood so he just pulled my pants down and put himself inside me and fucked me over the sink. And he does this kind of stuff a lot actually and whenever I tell my friends they say he’s a bad person and that I should leave him but he loves me and I love him and he has a hard day at work he should get whatever he wants because he has a hard job and he is always telling me that my place is to stay home and cook and clean and take care of him and he is right so I don’t understand why my friends are always trashing him. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and he is putting himself inside me but I understand and I know that he loves me and he deserves a little pleasure and when he hits me it’s not bad because he only does it if I disobey him or I don’t listen or I deserve it so it frustrates me when my friends talk poorly about him. What do I do? How do I get my friends to understand?