My husband isn’t being supportive anymore

Need to vent somewhere

My husband has been an ass lately. I have to say, he is normally the most loving and caring man in the world. He also is the most hardworking man I ever ever met. He takes amazing care of my daughter and I, but lately he’s been SOOO selfish and I don’t understand. We both work full time, but his job is very risky. Because of this, I NEVER ask him to get up at night with our daughter. In fact, I pretty much handle everything with her. Playtime, bedtime, feedings, doctors... everything.

Well, She has been teething really bad lately and I have been getting zero sleep. My husband always says “I should do more- wake me up! I’ll help!” WELL. Last night our daughter was particularly rough and since my husband doesn’t have to work today I figured I’d finally ask for help. I didn’t go well. He immediately starts screaming at me asking what the f* he is going to do and why I had to wake him up and why couldn’t handle it myself. This morning he acted that everything was fine so I told him I was upset about how he acted when I needed his help and he just basically blew me off.

Then to top it off, we both have been wanted to try for number two. He is always telling people how we are trying and how he can’t wait to have another. We also recently applied for life insurance to protect our family. Because of all of this, I’ve been super clean. No caffeine, healthy diet, vitamins, the whole deal. My husband on the other hand has not. He had a bag of weed that he wanted to “finish off” and then he said he would also work on his health. Well the bag was empty, so last night he said he was going to get some. I told him that we agreed he was done with this shit and he basically said “one more, whatever it’s fine” and I just feel like it was a slap on the face. We need to get a physical for the life insurance, so I felt like he prioritized drugs over protecting our family. Also, I feel like he isn’t taking TTC seriously because he chose to smoke, even though we’ve been trying for 6 months.

I’m just annoyed and needed to vent.