So my guy and I have been together for a year, and just had sex. When we used to hook up before he’d spank me, choke me, etc. it was incredible. When we had sex he was super gentle, and I’m glad, but how do I tell him I want him to do all of that again?

EDIT: I’m kind of awkward when it comes to those things, if he doesn’t initiate it then I don’t know how to