Diastasis reci hep ,.....?

So I’m 9months PP and have DR . The hernia is not the cutest thing to me . I’ve never had saggy stomach or bulging. My belly button looks terrible. For the most part my stomach is flat unless I eat or have sex or something that pushes the hernia out . It bothers me but my spouse is very much fine with it especially since there’s nothing I can really do next week I start physical therapy and hopefully it works this honestly makes me not want anymore kids and I wanted 2 anyways ....I wear a waist trainer everyday btw

Have anybody been able to fix it on there own ?? Any advice is helpful ‼️