Husband won’t have sex with me

He won’t have sex with me unless I start turning him on first and I feel like I’ve been done my that the last few times and I’m getting tired and he says I haven’t and I haven’t been getting anything in return so I have been taking care of myself by myself. I’m starting to feel really unattractive and I’m hating myself because of it. What can I do to feel better or help things? I hate feeling this way I have felt this my whole life until we met and it’s starting again because of how he’s treating me. He’d rather sleep than be with me