Okay so me and my boyfriend have been long distance our entire relationship. For about a year until last month he only lived 30-45 minutes away from me so I’ve stayed over his house and was able to see him for a few days once or twice a month. However since August, he had to move further away for family reasons. He’s now 3 hours away from me. We both graduated high school this year and are both unemployed at the moment. He really wants me to come take the bus and stay over for about two weeks and I’d love nothing more. In order for me to do that is to go visit before getting a job since I can’t just ask for 2 weeks off like that. On top of that, I would have to ask my mom to use my child support credit card as well )which she has let me use times before when I went out). However, I live with both my mom and grandparents and they’re all encouraging me to get a job since I haven’t had one yet; my mom especially. Applying and actually hearing back is actually harder than it seems. Anyways, my mom is also going through a tough time with my grandmother and I’m just nervous to ask because of that and the other circumstances. I told him I’d ask a couple days ago but haven’t because she’s come home late. This morning, we had a disagreement. I basically told him I’m at a tough position and all he did was tell me I’m just making excuses. It made me frustrated he didn’t put himself in my shoes. But he continued to press me about asking what I’m gonna do and I didn’t k ow what to say. He told me if I choose to get a job first and I start to get desperate to try to see him for a couple days, he said he would tell me no because I could’ve seen him for a longer period of time before getting a job. Was that an unfair ultimatum or should I actually just try harder? Worst case scenario, my mom could say no and think I’m ridiculous and I don’t think he gets that! Also what should I do?