I don’t want my aunt to hold my daughter 😐

The only people left in my close family that smoke are my dad and one of my aunts. My dad lives four hours away, but still knows not to smoke before holding her. But my aunt is a HEAVY smoker.

We can’t even stand in her house for more than a minute cause the smell is so bad. If she borrows Tupperware and brings it back, it smells like smoke. Her clothes ALWAYS smell like smoke, and so does her car.

So my husband and I are wanting to makes some rules I guess for when she decides to visit. I really don’t want her holding my daughter with smoke breath, or smelly clothes. I know I don’t want her smoking AT ALL while she visits. But I can’t really stop her from doing on the way over or before she comes. I don’t know what to do! 😥