Throughout this entire pregnancy I have been having major anxiety about L&D. Not because I’m scared of it but because my boyfriend doesn’t want my mom there. On the other hand my mom doesn’t want me to give this baby my boyfriends last night. Her reasoning is because we aren’t married. I feel so torn between the two because they are both very stubborn opinionated people and I’m the kind of person who avoids conflict.

I feel like no one is even considering what I want. I would like my mom in L&D and I want to hyphenate our last names but I feel like either way they will both be angry with me. The only other person I’ve been able to is my MIL but she said “it’s a special badge of honour for the father to have his children with his last name but I understand where your mom is coming from”. I feel like I don’t want either of them there and I’m just gonna name this baby what I want, but I know I can’t do that to them. Any advice on how to handle this situation?