I know these posts are common but I have to ask. I’m a virgin but am trying (rather desperately) to have an orgasm. Oddly enough, I get them in my sleep all the time. However, clit stimulation gets too intense at times. I’ve almost gotten there before with a feeling that makes my ears ring and feel pressure, but nothing that’s as satisfying and pleasurable as I imagine an orgasm is. I feel the pleasure of masturbating, I just can’t get myself to orgasm... I try so hard to relax and put myself in that place that I really cannot relax at all. I know I won’t be able to fully relax and enjoy it until it happens for the first time. Can anyone relate?

It’s hard, because I feel like my body is broken. I’m not a young teen, so I feel naïve at times when it comes to this. I mean... who doesn’t know how to pleasure their own body?!

What could be the problem? Would sex toys really make that big of a difference? I’ll buy one if I have to - that’s not an issue - I just feel like I should be able to accomplish this myself, you know? Any insight on this would be welcome. Woman-to-woman, I just need some advice.