Boyfriend lied about his identity (very long)

My boyfriend and I have been together since January 2017. He was everything to me from the start; he said and did all of the right things. I went to Sweden for 2 weeks in June, while there we made sure we continued to communicate. He even stated he wanted to marry me and start a family together. When I got back, we were still going strong; I have never felt this way about anyone. I was all the way in, my guard was down for the first time ever.

Fast forward

He moved in with me in September of that year. Everything was still great. One day while sitting on the bed, he came to me and said he needed to tell me something. My reaction was, "please dont tell me you're married". He said no. I was so relieved. He had a really sad look on his face, seeing him like that worried me and made me sad as well. He then said that he just found out that His daughter was not his biological daughter, but was his cousin's child. I comforted him, as he looked like he was about to cry. He loved that little girl more than life itself, so I felt his pain. At this time she was 8 years old. I said, you are all she knows as her dad, so continue to be in her life, she's still your daughter. Later that night he said to me, " Im ready to start our family, when would you like to start?" I was happy he asked that question bc I ready back in July when I returned from Sweden. That very night, we started with trying to conceive. So September, October, and November nothing happened, all negative pregnancy test. Toward the end of November I went to a fertility specialist, where I was told my test results were really as if I had PCOS. I'm like what bc I never heard of it. Well in December I had my first fertility treatment (clomid and what they call a trigger shot). Still nothing.

Fast Forward

In May 2018 I decided to lose weight bc I felt that was the cause for me not being able to conceive. From May to early June I lost 26 lbs. June 2018 was the worst time in my life hands down. June is the month my BF posted a YouTube video with my nieces, on his page as well as there's. While we were in the movies to watch TAG, my niece texted me asking if I knew someone by the name of......, I told her no. She stated that this woman posted something under their video and that I should take a look at it. So while on the movies I pulled up the comments to the video and it reads, "T. Reese is a child predator and is married". At that moment while still in the movies, I asked him did he know this person, he of course denied it. I said let's go, I cant watch this movie without getting to the bottom of those accusations. When we got to the car, he said that this person has been "trolling" him for years online (YouTube, Instagram, Facebook). He said he's blocked her but she keeps popping up. Because my nieces are minors, I disabled the comments on their videos bc I didn't want to expose them to grownup issues. Well she found one of my nieces Instagram and DM'd her. I told my niece to give her my IG name and her her message me. I told my niece to block her once she sent the message. Well this lady contacted me and stated that my man lied about his name, lied about being married, and has more than one child. At this point I was more concerned with the child predator accusation. She said she lied about that bc she knew that would get my attention. I told her that was not a good way to get someone's attention bc now she's pegged as a liar. She went on to say that she has known him since 2015, never in a relationship, only had sex. She said the last time they had sex was May 29, 2018 and even told me what car he used to come to her place. She described my car. At this point my heart was racing. She then proceeded to tell me she had her sister did a background check on him and that's how she found out his real name, that he has been married since 2015, and that he has 3 siblings. At this point I wanted to talk to her on the phone. I downloaded an app to get a temporary phone number bc I didn't want her to have my real number. She then spilled every encounter she had with him and that she has had conversations with his wife and his children's mother. She even told me that she found out she was pregnant. I was devastated.

When he got back from work, I confronted him. He said that he lied about being married bc he and his wife have been separated for a very long time and were in the process of finishing up their divorce. I said but you took away my choice on whether or not I wanted to be with you. At this moment he was crying, the ugly cry stating that I'm the best thing that happened to him and that I'm the only woman in his life. He then proceeded to provide me with the information about this woman who came to me with this information. He said that he slept with her once years before he and I met and she's been stalking him every since. I said someone you met and slept with once would not go through all this trouble to ruin your life. He said that they were online friends before they met in person that one time. I asked him to explain how does she know my car, he said that she has someone who works for the Government and she can get whatever info she wants. I asked about the other 2 children she said he has, he said that the one with his wife is not his and that the 2nd one with his daughters mom is also not his. He said his wife conceived her child when they separated and that he did not sleep with his daughters mom since they had her 9 years ago. Well I talked to the wife and she confirmed what he said about their separation. I asked him about the other siblings he supposedly has, he said he does not claim them, as they are his half sisters and brothers on his dad's side. He only claims his sis on his mom's side. He said that there was no reason to mention them because he will never have anything to do with them. I understood that bc I have family members that I have nothing to do with either.

This lady with the accusations lied about being pregnant. So with the lie about him being a child predator, they lie about her being pregnant, and the ex wife confirming what he told me about their separation, I decided to forgive him.

Things were a bit strange but we got back to a good place. August 23rd I took a pregnancy test and was elated to see a positive test. I didn't tell him until the next day bc I wanted to take another test (first response) to make sure. Well his response was, "Damn!". He looked at my face and tried to clean it up by saying, no, I'm happy for you I mean happy for us. I said why did you say damn, he said because he thought he couldn't get anyone pregnant. At that point I left and went to my mom's house bc I didn't like what I was hearing and bc he said that he wish he was in a different place in his life before bringing a child in the world. He said that he was not going to be around me for a few days bc he needed to think about things..I'm all confused bc one, you asked me to start a family, I spent money on fertility treatments in Dec, we had sex without any protection nor did you "pull out". So if you didn't want children, why did you even lie about wanting them?

On August 26th I began to bleed and was passing clots. Went to the doctor and was told I was miscarrying. My heart is broken, as the one thing I want in the world is to be a mother. I was so torn because I feel like I have wasted so much valuable time on someone who clearly doesn't value me. Why does apart of me still want him in my life and to have a child with him?